Upon returning from her trip one of my uncle's children decided that he never wanted to speak to his father again and that he was not allowed so see his grandchild ever again. This seems reasonable in his eyes but he should not have put his child in this position because sooner or later the child is going to ask about his grandfather...right? Anyways, 2 years have passed, and the new girlfriend my uncle found is long gone and he has now found a new woman. They just got married on friday and she seems to make him happy. His kids however did not show up to the wedding. My uncle's family are very upset about this and find it disrespectful that they would not want to support their father. But aren't there two sides to a story? Shouldn't there be a good reason for them not to show up. I am stuck in between the two and I try to listen to what each of them are saying but it is difficult to form an opinion. My uncle only tells my family what he wants us to know. He does not tell us that he yells and curses at his children so much that his grand children start crying and that the neighbours want to call the police. After this argument the children decided not to go to the wedding to act as if they are supporting their father who seems nothing like the man they knew.
I tried talking to my mother about this but all she told me was to listen and not to judge or jump to conclusions. Why do I feel guilty though for staying in contact with them when the rest of the family is ready to turn their backs on them. I know deep inside that they are right as well, that all they need to do is talk to each other and work this out. I know my uncle has gone about this in a wrong way, and I know that no matter what happens he is still their father.
